Irrespective of race, religion, size, shape or age, long term couples everywhere suffer from the same problem, called monotony. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why divorce rates are increasing, and many people are justifying their acts and blame each other.
Every story is unique, and everybody is free to their own logic for leaving. However, there is no doubt that boredom and the irrepressible baggage of tedium has a role to play in some relationships falling apart.
The entire point of being in love and dedicating your life to someone is being under the impact that you will spend a lifetime of love, laughter, joy, and companionship together. What happens when you get up one day and realize that your ideals are replaced by endless continuity, repetition, and boring monotony? This is when you begin getting resentful, angry, and ready to pack up and leave.
What many couples do not understand is that monotony in a relationship can be easily put off if both parties invest in making a change.
In this article, Delhi’s top Marriage Counselor, Relationship Expert, and Founder of Saarthi Counselling Services Shivani Misri Sadhoo is sharing tips to throw the monotony out of your relationship.
Want to feel refreshed and inspired again, not only in your relationship but in life? Then travel. There is no better method to get the monotony out of your relationship than by traveling along with your partner.
When you move up and leave the cozy confines of your daily life, you end up doing things that you never imagined you would. You end up seeing stuff that is extraordinarily new. You will taste, feel, and hear much more than what an ordinary life can offer.
Select a destination, and plant out the logistics on how to get there. Do not make excuses, do not assume, and just do it. Remember that nothing can infringe all over monotony the way traveling can.
Indulge In Sexual Surprises
Several couples fall into the trap of routine love making. Whether it is doing it on only on weekends, doing the thing before 10:00 PM every night, or only doing it for the sake of doing it, it is a pathetic thought indeed, once you come to the understanding that your once high sex drive has fizzled out into a slow-burning candle, and all that is left is boredom.
Spice it up by changing up the routine. Do it at different times. Let your intimacy take over, feed to its whims and fancies, and feel that there’s no proper place or time to get it on.
Do Something New Every Week
One more way to rid your relationship of monotony is to assign yourselves to do something new as a couple every week. It might be renting a motorbike and going for a spin around the town. It could be watching a movie or doing sports activities.
No matter what you end up doing, ensure that it is something new, and your partner is 100% involved. The more challenging the task, the better it is.
Do A Project Together
You can also throw monotony to the dead-end by signing up for a course or taking on a project together. It does not have to be something big like building a homeless shelter, but go right away, and indulge in it if that excites you.
It could be something simple like joining a cooking class or learning music together. No matter what, the feeling of starting something new and reaching an end goal together will be certain to keep things fresh and exciting.
Welcome New Life Into Your Old One
One the reason perhaps why things seem so monotonous is because the 2 of you simply are not enough. Have you ever thought about welcoming a third party into your life? It is about welcoming a pet or even a child into your lives.
Remember never do this to save your relationship because it will not help one bit. Do it only if both of you feel that being a team of 2 simply is not sufficient. Whether you decide to welcome a child into the world, adopt a pet, or grow plants, it is truly an amazing thing when you decide to share the love, grow your family, and create a life together.