Marriage Counsellor and Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo

Generally, in today’s lifestyle, couples find their mornings chaotic; there is a pressure to send kids to school, get themselves ready for the office, finish household chores and so on. Similarly, on weekends they get up late to supplement their weekday tiredness & sleep.

According to eminent relationship expert and marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, couples need to find a few minutes every morning to connect with each other. Otherwise, day-to-day professional and household pressure may weaken their romantic bond.  Counselor Shivani suggests that connecting with your partner in every morning does not need much effort and time rather it can be done by the following 6 things that the happiest couples do every morning.

1.      Happy couples try to get up at the same time (if they don’t work on different or odd work shifts): The first step to finding a few minutes with your spouse is to get up together at the same time. To achieve this goal, a couple should try to bring a disciplined routine of going to bed on time.

2.      They Enjoy A Cup Of Tea Or Coffee Together: Having tea together is another great way to keep in touch with each other. Prior to a challenging morning start, the couples may get up 10 minutes early and sit together to have their tea. Even if it’s only for 15-20 minutes, they have their coffee talk about plans for the day and watch the beauty of nature if they sit in their balcony.

3.      They Make Eye ContactHappy couples often brush their teeth together. For those few minutes, couples look into each other’s eyes. They usually, touch each other, a hand on the waist, a gentle touch on the cheek or head on the chest.

4.      They Share Up The Morning Chores: Getting the kids up, and preparing them off to school every morning can be a tough task. Usually, we think that it’s the mom’s job. But happy couples share these kinds of family and parental responsibilities. Acting, as a team in the morning, builds connection and relationship happiness that carries throughout the day.

5.      They Bid Kiss Goodbye: It is very important for a couple to always show affection to each other before they leave for their respective offices. For example, if a husband or wife leaves home for work an hour before the wife or husband gets up so they always say goodbye with a kiss on their forehead. It’s not about needing the affection but more so knowing that he or she is thinking of them before they head off to work.

Loneliness is not the same as being alone. Being alone is a fact whereas loneliness is a feeling. You can feel lonely when you are with friends or with your partner.

At the same time, you don’t need to feel lonely when you are alone.

In other words, loneliness can be termed as the desire to get connected with someone and that someone is not available. This can certainly occur when we are alone, but it also occurs in relationships when one or both partners are unavailable for connection perhaps due to anger, doubts, distrust, withdrawal, tired, illness or just being complacent in the relationship.

So what causes loneliness in a relationship? According to Delhi’s eminent Relationship and Marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, in a relationship loneliness is created by certain situations and conditions and there are:

1. When a person is emotionally fragile, many times it’s seen that such personalities start protecting themselves from getting emotionally hurt by expressing anger or by withdrawal. In such a scenario, their partner finds it difficult to connect with them.

2. One may feel lonely with his/her partner when their partner deliberately shuts them out with work, TV, food, hard drink, hobbies, the Internet so on and so forth.

3. One may feel lonely when he/she tries to have control over their partner’s feelings. Since no one in this world likes to be controlled and such tendencies soon push away the person’s partner physically and emotionally.

4.  One may feel lonely if the other half keeps judging them regarding their thoughts, feelings, looks or actions. Judgment creates disconnection, and disconnection can be very lonely.

5.  One may also feel lonely when their partner can’t connect with them due to being overly tired, frazzled and overwhelmed or unwell.