Marriage Counsellor and Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo

While organizations have adopted WFH (work from home) format to restrict the COVID-19 spread, situations at home for most of the working couples have turned very challenging, especially among couples who are having the same working hours.

At present, the internet is flooded with guidance and advice on how to do WFH effectively, like put real clothes on, set up a desk space that is not your bed, and goes about your morning routine as though you’re actually heading to work, etc.

BUT the advice is still missing some of the critical issues that couples actually are facing in day to day life, “how not get into a fight with a partner when your mood has been soured by your boss or by that annoying colleague, who will do work chores during office hours, how to keep your relationship throbbing when both of you are getting each other 24×7? And others, how to manage your child’s online classes with WFH”?

India’s leading relationship expert and marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo in this article decodes the secrets for couples to do co-working happily.

1. Create a daily schedule for everyone

Build a habit to devote 5 minutes every day, to prepare your next day’s schedule. Involve all your family members – ask your spouse the timing for his/her conference calls in every family member’s presence, so everyone can remember to avoid making background noises (avoid TV watching, utensil cleaning, running mixes in the kitchen, vacuum cleaner, etc. during that time). Also, schedule a time for home chores before and after office hours with your partner.

2. Plan your Kid’s studies

A major challenge that working couples are facing during WFH, is handling their kid’s online schooling. Hence try to identify the subjects that your child can do on their own and subjects that need your guidance, schedule the easy subject for the kids to do on their own, during your office hours to reduce your time devotion to teach them at end of the day. Also, try to prepare the child for the next day’s class so they can turn self-reliant for online classes.

3. Television and earphone

If you have in-laws and kids at home, surely television background noise can turn into a headache while working for your office. Perhaps it could be a good idea to buy wireless headphones for the TV, so the rest of the family members can spend their time watching TV without any noise disturbance.

4. Give yourself a buffer time

At the end of your workday, take ten to thirty minutes break to unwind yourself before making yourself available to spend with your partner and family. This “buffer time” can help you to release any stresses from the workday, get relaxed, and then help you to get prepare for the family members. Hence, take a shower, change clothes, take another walk, and 20 minutes’ power nap.

5. Separate your workspaces

Being productive and efficient during WFH hours will help you stay happy and avoid stress to a large extent. Hence make the arrangements so you can work with full concentration and give yourself and your partner the proper space to work at their best. These arrangements could be in form of separate workstations in separate rooms, using the headphone for your conference calls, avoid talking to your partner during office hours, etc.

6. Use this time for Special moments 

Remember once you will be back to the old routine, again a large chunk of your daily life will be eaten by commutation to the office, and back home, your time to devote for your partner will again get limited to weekends. And, in most of those weekends, you would be again questioning yourself to get yourself rest to get rid of the weeklong tiredness or spend some romantic moments with your spouse.

Hence take the advantage of the fact that you and your partner are getting time together that you don’t usually get. Hence eat your breakfasts, lunches, and dinner together, get to bed early and spend quality and intimate moments together.

Your Counselor Is Now Just Skype/Video Call Away

During the current challenging time, it’s common to experience anxiety, depression, sleeplessness, and relationship challenges at home. While you are under lockdown and maintaining social distancing norms to help the country to control COVID-19 spread, your very own counsellor Shivani is now just a call and Skype video call away from you.

However, in this age of coronavirus, we hope to offer our therapeutic help. Change is difficult for all of us and changing the way you meet with your therapist is no exception.  But try it before you disregard this option.  This is a challenging moment in time, and fears and anxieties are running high. 

You may find, telepsychology isn’t a second-rate option. Instead, it’s an effective and efficient upgrade to a valuable service! 

Feel free to call Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo at +91-8860875040 for telephonic or video support and to book an online counselling session to address any relationship issues, emotional and psychological challenges.

According to Marriage and Family Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo

In this time of pandemic going or meeting someone is a big challenge. Specifically, when there is a constant threat of getting infected from COVID-19. But, in spite of this life goes on and the certain things that used to bother you on pre-COVID days they still bother you and relationship issues between a husband and wife is one such thing.

This pandemic has seen a lot of changes and marriage counseling is no different either. Marriage counseling from the traditional face to face counseling has got another alternative and that is Online Marriage Counseling. The dynamics remain the same but only the mode of marriage counseling has changed.

Eminent Marriage Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says if you and your partner have been contemplating couples therapy, then you are in good company. Almost all couples can stand to benefit from online counseling. Online couples therapy can assist couples understand their relationship patterns, dysfunctional coping technic, communication issues, and personality differences. Unlike what most people assume that online marriage counseling, will not work the same way as a face to face counseling or is not just for those who are struggling with problems in their relationship. Then this is a wrong notion to carry around as online couples therapy is equally effective and useful.

Thought you cannot meet physically with a couple’s therapist during this time, you can book online couples therapy appointments, also known as teletherapy. As long as your therapist makes sure that the sessions are confidential and that all precautions are taken for the client’s protection, both video, and home sessions can be equally effective as in-person sessions. Clients are given tools and homework assignments to support them navigate through their process and, if done properly, there should be no hindrances to the client’s progress during this time

In this blog, India’s leading Marriage Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo broadly tells about the benefits, you can avail from online marriage counseling.

Here they are.

The Home Advantage

Every online couple therapist knows how helpful it can be for a client’s remedy when they perform a visit, which usually, takes place in the client’s home rather than the therapist’s office. As a counselor, it gives an opportunity to really get a deeper glance at what things are like in the household.  With teletherapy, you are already home. “In their own home environment, couples tend to show more transparency to the therapist.

With online couples’ therapy, this process is fast-tracked because the clients are already present in the comforts of their home where they will do most of their practice.

Without Feeling Exposed, You Get an Exposure to the Therapy

Perhaps the thought of going into a marriage counselors’ office makes you uncomfortable. It is perfectly OK! Online marital therapy removes this hurdle while still giving you useful tactics to improve your relationship. Couples who are afraid of getting exposed to therapy through a screen is a great alternative to the therapeutic process.

Able to Have a Stronger Emotional Bond

It is not comfortable for most people to open up and feel vulnerable, even with their own partner. But when the fundamental love or attachment bond is strong between partners, they are more adaptable of weathering storms together. Methods such as Emotionally Focused Therapy can help couples to understand each other’s attachment patterns and triggers so they can better understand each other and see their negative pattern as the enemy and not the individual. Then, they can be vulnerable with each other and connect in confidently rather than attacking or ridiculing each other and destroying the bond.

Learn to Communicate More Effectively

One of the finest useful tools, you will learn in both online and face to face couples therapy is how to understand your partner well and how to get your partner to understand and know you better. The best method to do this is through verbal communication. Plenty of conflicts begins when one partner says, “You are so insensitive and mean!’ which makes the other partner put up his/her defenses for safety. A helpful approach that is mostly recommended is to practice interchanging ‘you’ statements with ‘I’ statements, or telling the partner how you are feeling rather than telling them how they are behaving.

You Learn to Set the Boundaries

Probabilities are, you are not accustomed to spending every waking second with your partner, but this is likely become your reality provided the stay-at-home orders. It can be comfortable to feel on the defense with your partner, who could be getting on your last nerve at this stage. Online couples therapy can assist ease the tension by letting you know how to set boundaries and maintain a healthy balance of harmony, unity, and separateness. Boundaries can aid couples to avoid codependency and maintain respect for each other and the overall relationship.

Your Counselor Is Now Just Skype/Video Call Away

During the current challenging time, it’s common to experience anxiety, depression, sleeplessness, and relationship challenges at home. While you are under lockdown and maintaining social distancing norms to help the country to control COVID-19 spread, your very own counsellor Shivani is now just a call and Skype video call away from you.

However, in this age of coronavirus, we hope to offer our therapeutic help.  Change is difficult for all of us and changing the way you meet with your therapist is no exception.  But try it before you disregard this option.  This is a challenging moment in time, and fears and anxieties are running high. 

You may find, telepsychology isn’t a second-rate option.  Instead, it’s an effective and efficient upgrade to a valuable service! 

Feel free to call Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo at +91-8860875040 for telephonic or video support and to book an online counselling session to address any relationship issues, emotional and psychological challenges.