One of the major reasons that couples come to counselling is either one or both partners feeling unloved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Marriage Counselor Shivani<\/strong> says lots of people, specifically those who have been with their partners for a long time and have been doing things a similar way for a while coming for help as they feel their partner never expresses love, appreciation, or affection and, as a result, they do not feel wanted or cared for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But mostly, the problem is quite much to do with how affection is being expressed as anything else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Everyone has a different method of showing someone that he\/she cares about them. This may be called your \u2018love language. This blog by\u00a0India\u2019s top Marriage Counselor and Relationship Expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0shares how you can express affection to your special one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Counselor Shivani says the main \u2018love languages\u2019 people often use are:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Majorly people have just one or two main \u2018love languages\u2019 that they usually speak \u2013 through which they express affection and that they mostly appreciate and understand when \u2018spoken\u2019 to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, if someone feels that spending quality time with each other is the most natural way of expressing and forming affection may really appreciate it if their partner plans aside an evening for them to go on a date or have dinner. Or somebody who feels close to their partner when being touched physically may really enjoy a light massage at home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Likewise, one usually has one or two methods of expressing affection that do not mean all that much to you \u2013 probably receiving gifts does not really do it for you, or you can go a little extra without dedicated quality time.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n How one expresses affection is mostly hugely influenced by what you learnt growing up. If your family likes spending plenty of quality time together, for example, you may value the same things in your partner. If there was an embarrassment at expressing feelings verbally or physically, this could continue into adulthood. But there are no real hard and fast formulas or rules, you may make a choice to do things differently in your adult relationships. In the end, you express affection the way you do because that is what makes the most sense to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you and your significant other are speaking different \u2018love languages\u2019 without realizing it, that is when there can be room for miscommunication besides dissatisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You may both end up feeling like the other one doesn\u2019t say or do anything to show they truly care and may end up thinking about whether they care at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, if someone really values kind acts, but their partner\u2019s methods of expressing love are, say, buying gifts, they might feel like they are not having their needs or desires met. Similarly, their partner could feel the bunch of flowers they bought was a really nice gesture of showing they care, but was put out by their spouse\u2019s underwhelmed reaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Over time, this sort of miscommunication may really drive a wedge in a relationship. Both partners may begin to feel they are doing all they can, but that it is still not sufficient to make each other happy and content. As a result, they can begin to feel bitter and resentful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n How Can You Address This?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n For a relationship to be healthy you both the partners need to understand each other\u2019s needs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You and your partner probably need to explore how you both feel most comfortable expressing and receiving affection. If you think you may find this conversation difficult, you may like to think about the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n For plenty of couples, discovering that they and their spouse are speaking different love languages is a real lightbulb moment. They could have been feeling poles apart, but suddenly realize they do love each other. It is just that the messages have not been getting through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How We Can Help<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you think you and your partner could do with seeking help, talking about any of the above,\u00a0Relationship Counselling\u00a0at\u00a0Saarthi Counselling Services<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0can be a great way to have conversations that you may otherwise find difficult.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThe Common 5 Love Languages<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Where Do You Learn Your \u2018Love Language\u2019?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
When You Speak Different Languages<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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