{"id":617,"date":"2020-07-06T09:49:00","date_gmt":"2020-07-06T09:49:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.saarthicounsellingservices.com\/blog\/?p=617"},"modified":"2026-01-04T07:48:03","modified_gmt":"2026-01-04T07:48:03","slug":"dealing-with-singlehood-desperation-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.saarthicounsellingservices.com\/blog\/dealing-with-singlehood-desperation-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop the Feeling of Desperation When You are Single?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>You have just turned 30 or even are of more than 30 and you are still single, whereas, all of your friends and colleagues are married, engaged, or are already committed and dating someone. Even though you are happy, confident, and have an active social life, but you are slowly or rapidly starting to worry that there is not anyone out there for you. The situation can become worse and tricky more so when you also end up countering questions be it from your family, relatives or friends when are you going to get married or even seeking out for a steady relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/counsellorshivanisadhoo.com\/\">Relationship Expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo<\/a> says these kind of thoughts or questions are at times good enough to suddenly rattle your mind and you start to question yourself regarding your own abilities and it reaches a point when you also look to seek validation from others by asking questions like \u201cAm I good enough\u201d or \u201cIs there something lacking in me\u201d and several other questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Today in this blog <a href=\"http:\/\/saarthicounsellingservices.com\">Delhi\u2019s eminent Psychologist and Marriage Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo<\/a> tells how can you continue to date in hopes of finding a good and stable relationship without appearing desperate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here, are few ways that will help you how to stop the\nfeeling of desperation when you are single?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>To Start with the Benefits of Being Single<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Every place you see, from movies to magazines, you are\nmostly told that being in a relationship equals being happy. The good news!\nThat\u2019s 100% not correct.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You have probably heard it earlier, but the only way to put\nyour finest self out there is to first get comfortable with yourself and your\nalone or me time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rather than focusing on what you do not have, think about\nwhat is great about you and your life currently. Being single has numerous\nperks. Taking sudden road trips and being the driver of your own life and\ndestiny<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Whenever you feeling sad or desperate, always remember those\ngood points. It will take some time and practice, but almost every negative\nthought about being single can be switched to a good one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What is more based on life various life experiences\ndiscovered that finding love is not about wearing the proper outfit, going to\nthe best restaurant for a first date, or waiting 5 days after that date to\ntext. It is about looking inside you and asking yourself 2 major questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>What Parts of Life Matters to Me?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you have thought and identified about the following 6\nareas of your life, you will have better clarity of what you are all about,\nwhich will also assist you to identify compatibilities in a potential partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Money<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Faith<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Family<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Lifestyle<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Profession<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Health<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>How do you see each core area? Where do your values,\npriorities, and goals of life are places? Are you happy and satisfied with your\npriorities, or do you need any of them to change?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Next, ask yourself which 2 aspects stand out the most in\nterms of how you want to spend your life in the future. Remember that there are\nno correct or incorrect answers here, or opinions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>From that list, you may end up being attracted to someone\nwho appears nothing like what you thought was your \u201ckind\u201d. It has been found\nthat partners who share beliefs about those values are more likely to stay\ntogether over the longer course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember, a couple can share all-important life values even\nwhen they have contrasting interests and hobbies, and even when they are of 2\ndifferent races, religions, or have quite a dissimilar social background.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>What is that I Need or Want in a Partner?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you actually know how the right person would look like if\nyou meet them today? The majority of the people do not take out time to think\nabout what they want in a romantic relationship. In an attempt to open yourself\nup to a connection and not feeling desperate, decide exactly what you need or\nwant in your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Defining that person, you want to be with is a bit like\nmaking a list before you head to the store. It streamlines the procedure, keeps\nyou away from making random or desperate selections, and prevents you from\nwasting time and also money, the last thing you want at the store or even in\ndating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Get yourself a piece of paper and divide it into 2 columns.\nOn the left, list a minimum of 5 must-have qualities that you require in a\npartner. Do that person\u2019s age and appearance matter? What about personality\ntraits? Would you prefer someone sensitive, inquisitive, easygoing,\nadventurous, or street smart?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the right column, list another 5 deal-breakers. Maybe it\nis like drinking or smoking cigarettes, being in a financial problem, having\nterrible behavior, or usually, being closed-minded. These are the 5 things\nthat, as good as you try, you simply cannot tolerate or allow in a partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you meet a new person, this list will become a handy\ntool. It will remind you to ensure your needs are being met. Rather than\nworrying about what your date thinks about you, as you may have done before,\nyour list will assist you to determine if that person could fit into the future\nyou envision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Key Thing<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the end, by understanding knowing yourself and what matters to you both in life and in a partner, you will feel far less desperate and anxious. When you move around with a positive attitude, you will find the right person for you. Please be assured they are out there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/saarthicounsellingservices.com\">Your Counselor Is Now Just Skype\/Video Call Away<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>During the current challenging time, it\u2019s common to experience anxiety, depression, sleeplessness, and relationship challenges at home. While you are under lockdown and maintaining social distancing norms to help the country to control COVID-10 spread, your very own counselor Shivani is now just a call and Skype video call away from you.<br> <br>However, in this age of coronavirus, we hope to offer our therapeutic help.\u00a0 Change is difficult for all of us and changing the way you meet with your therapist is no exception.\u00a0 But try it before you disregard this option.\u00a0 This is a challenging moment in time, and fears and anxieties are running high.\u00a0<br> <br> You may find, telepsychology isn\u2019t a second-rate option.\u00a0 Instead, it\u2019s an effective and efficient upgrade to a valuable service!\u00a0<br> <br> Feel free to call Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo at +91-8860875040 for telephonic or video support and to book an online counselling session to address any relationship issues, emotional and psychological challenges.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Feeling desperate in singlehood? 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