1. \u00a0Don\u2019t Constantly Remind Your Child to focus on the Future Goals.<\/strong><\/p>\nSet target to get admission in IIT, Medical, best Delhi University college and best course etc. are some of the most common advises that we hear most Indian parents generally give their kids. It\u2019s true that every parent desires good academic and career progress for their child\u2019s so they can settle well and live a happy and content life.<\/p>\n
A mind that is constantly trying to focus on the future \u2014 from getting good grades to applying in good colleges \u2014 will be prone to greater\u00a0anxiety\u00a0and\u00a0fear. While a little bit of stress can serve as a motivator, long-term chronic stress impairs our\u00a0health\u00a0as well as our intellectual faculties, such as attention and\u00a0memory. As a consequence, focusing too much on the future can actually impair our performance.<\/p>\n
Children do better and feel happier if they are learning how to stay in the present moment. And when people feel happy, they\u2019re able to learn faster, think more creatively, and problem-solve more easily. Studies even suggest that\u00a0happiness\u00a0makes you 12% more productive. Positive emotions also make you more\u00a0resilient\u00a0to stress \u2014 helping you to overcome challenges and setbacks more quickly so that you can get back on track.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s certainly good for children to have goals they\u2019re working towards. But instead of always encouraging them to focus on what\u2019s next on their to-do list, help them stay focused on the task or conversation at hand.<\/p>\n
Hence instead pushing or constantly reminding the child to focus on the future and keep an eye on goals, what we should be telling them is Live (or work) in the moment.<\/p>\n
2. Don\u2019t tell or Show Your Child that Stress is inevitable and we need to keep pushing ourselves.<\/strong><\/p>\nGenerally, parents don\u2019t directly tell their child that stress is inevitable and we need to keep pushing ourselves, rather in today\u2018s age, a large population of parents display this message through their actions and conversations.<\/p>\n
Those who are overburdened in offices, live in a constant state of overdrive, burn themselves out and become terrible when they miss a professional goal and at night becomes so wired that they use hard drinks or sleep medication to calm them down.<\/p>\n
Children in such environment tend to develop feelings of anxiety at a young and they start to worry too much about grades and feel pressurised to do better in school or in competitive exams. Most distressingly, we\u2019re even witnessing stress-induced suicides in children.<\/p>\n
All in all, this is not a good lifestyle model for children. It\u2019s no surprise that research shows that children whose parents are dealing with burnout at work are more likely to experience burnout at school. What we should be telling them instead: Learn to chill out.<\/p>\n
It’s recommended that parents should consider teaching their children the skills they will need to be more resilient in the face of stressful events. While we can\u2019t change the work and life demands that we face at work and in school, we can use techniques such as\u00a0meditation, yoga and mindful breathing to better deal with the pressures we face. These tools help children learn to tap into their parasympathetic \u201crest and digest\u201d nervous system (as opposed to the \u201cfight or flight\u201d stress response).<\/p>\n
3. Don\u2019t tell your child it\u2019s a dog-eat-dog world, rather teach them to show compassion<\/strong><\/p>\nResearch shows that from\u00a0childhood\u00a0onward, our social connections are the most important predictor of health, happiness, and even longevity. Having positive relationships with other people is essential for our well-being, which in turn influences our intellectual abilities and ultimate success.<\/p>\n
Moreover, likability is also one of the strongest predictors of success. According to experts, when you express compassion to those around you and create supportive relationships instead of remaining focused on yourself, you will actually be more successful in the long term \u2014 as long as you don\u2019t let yourself be taken advantage of.<\/p>\n
Children are naturally compassionate and kind. But at the same time, many young people are also becoming increasingly self-involved. So it\u2019s important to encourage children\u2019s natural instincts to care about other people\u2019s feelings and learn to put themselves in other people\u2019s shoes and cultivate empathy.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s true that it\u2019s a tough world out there. It would be a lot less tough if we all emphasize on less cut-throat\u00a0competition and put a higher premium on learning to get along well on the journey that’s called life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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