{"id":111,"date":"2017-07-22T07:31:43","date_gmt":"2017-07-22T07:31:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.saarthicounsellingservices.com\/blog\/?p=111"},"modified":"2026-01-04T08:20:16","modified_gmt":"2026-01-04T08:20:16","slug":"qualities-look-ideal-life-partner-tips-by-marriage-counsellor-shivani-misri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.saarthicounsellingservices.com\/blog\/qualities-look-ideal-life-partner-tips-by-marriage-counsellor-shivani-misri\/","title":{"rendered":"Qualities to Look in an Ideal Life Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Relationship expert and marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo<\/a> suggests if you are in the dating world or if your family is arranging a meet with a prospective guy or girl for an arranged marriage, here are 4 qualities of a romantic partner that you can look for in the person.<\/p>\n

1. Look for similarities between you two<\/strong><\/p>\n

A lot of relationship research across the world has identified that opposites do not always attract in the long term. People tend to find more opportunities to develop their marital relationship when they share similar interests, value system and attitudes. For example, a girl who loves to trek would possibly get better opportunity to enhance her relationship with her husband if he loves to trek as well and they can trek together. However, if there are differences in taste and\/or hobbies largely, the couple then should check if they both hold the capacity to respect each other\u2019s individual preferences and can offer each other the freedom to explore their individual interests.<\/p>\n

2. \u00a0Kindness, fidelity, and support<\/strong><\/p>\n

While selecting an ideal life partner, a person and his\/her family in India put a lot of emphasis on personality, career, and earning potential and physical\u00a0attractiveness. But remember more than anything else, it\u2019s the person\u2019s kindness, loyalty, emotional support and understanding that really defines who he\/she is and that will determine if you would really be happy with this person in life.<\/p>\n

Since all superficial traits are conditioned to time and situation, like someone who is an average earner today could reach an excellent career point in future or vice versa, or someone who looks extremely beautiful today would be overweight after child birth or vice versa.<\/p>\n

But someone who is kind, capable and puts effort to understand another person\u2019s unspoken words i.e. emotions and feelings\u2013will be like this possible for rest of his\/her life. Hence look for these traits and check if it’s genuine or pretended.<\/p>\n

3. Have to mean in life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Appreciate and value the person who is leading a purposeful life, holds a passion, a mission or larger meaning to his\/her life. This happens when a person uses his\/her strengths to help something they believe in. It might be volunteering with NGO, being an active part of a spiritual process, contributing to a good cause.<\/p>\n

Remember a person, who has a bigger mission in life and live more than its materialistic dimensions, holds much better chance to live an emotionally healthy and peaceful old age and that would certainly make them a better life partner than others.<\/p>\n

4. Check for e<\/strong>motional s<\/strong>tability<\/strong><\/p>\n

This trait is the most important harbinger of relationship success, and should ideally be at No 1. Those who lack emotional stability and are high on the trait of neuroticism, tend to be moody, touchy, anxious, and quicker to anger, all traits that can be destructive in any given relationship. Those who have low emotional intelligence or EQ, tend to be negative and are more prone to be combative with others and their partners. There is a strong link between high levels of neuroticism and divorce.<\/p>\n

How to check if the person is emotionally stable?<\/strong>\u00a0Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo <\/a>suggests looks for the following clues.<\/p>\n